"Geb nisht kein Aitzos".

"Don't give advice" goes the Yiddish saying.

We tend to like giving advice. I tend to like advising people.

Little kids and how they should spend their time, we advise. Teenagers deciding what to do with their lives, we give advice. Newly married couples settling down, we give advice. An expecting mother, again, we advise.

"Don't give advice." Let that saying ring through your ears. Think about it and ponder it a little bit. What does it mean?

There are two types of giving advice. You can give unsolicited advice, or you can give solicited advice. You either impose your opinion on people and try to sync their actions with your views. Or you are asked for your advice, as it is deemed valuable. You are either spamming, or you are providing useful information.

"Don't give advice" means "Don't spam".

Don't impose your opinion on people who aren't ready to listen.

You may really have something very important to share with them. You may really have a deeper and broader vantage point with which to look at the world. You may really be able to help them and assist them. Hold back. Hold back on all of that. Why? Because they won't listen.

It is a very difficult thing for people to watch a loved one make a wrong decision. You see that they can do better. You know that there is a better road for them. Yet you can't help them. You can't help them because they won't listen.

So if you want to help someone who won't listen, what do you do? You build trust. You build respect. Once you have that, than they will ask for your advice. Once they ask for your advice than you can give it.

Well thats all for my advice.

Hey, if you are reading it I probably have your trust, lol.