Ad-Vice?

Ad-vice?

"Geb nisht kein Aitzos".

"Don't give advice" goes the Yiddish saying.

We tend to like giving advice. I tend to like advising people.

Little kids and how they should spend their time, we advise. Teenagers deciding what to do with their lives, we give advice. Newly married couples settling down, we give advice. An expecting mother, again, we advise.

"Don't give advice." Let that saying ring through your ears. Think about it and ponder it a little bit. What does it mean?

There are two types of giving advice. You can give unsolicited advice, or you can give solicited advice. You either impose your opinion on people and try to sync their actions with your views. Or you are asked for your advice, as it is deemed valuable. You are either spamming, or you are providing useful information.

"Don't give advice" means "Don't spam".

Don't impose your opinion on people who aren't ready to listen.

You may really have something very important to share with them. You may really have a deeper and broader vantage point with which to look at the world. You may really be able to help them and assist them. Hold back. Hold back on all of that. Why? Because they won't listen.

It is a very difficult thing for people to watch a loved one make a wrong decision. You see that they can do better. You know that there is a better road for them. Yet you can't help them. You can't help them because they won't listen.

So if you want to help someone who won't listen, what do you do? You build trust. You build respect. Once you have that, than they will ask for your advice. Once they ask for your advice than you can give it.

Well thats all for my advice.

Hey, if you are reading it I probably have your trust, lol.

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Answer: What was so difficult about the dream interpretation? W/ a contemporary lesson.

Earlier this week I was wondering what was so difficult about interpreting Pharaohs dream the way that Joseph did, see previous post. 

Here is Pharaohs first dream:
"It came to pass at the end of two full years, that Pharaoh was dreaming, and behold, he was standing by the Nile.  And behold, from the Nile were coming up seven cows, of handsome appearance and robust flesh, and they pastured in the marshland.  And behold, seven other cows were coming up after them from the Nile, of ugly appearance and lean of flesh, and they stood beside the cows [which were] on the Nile bank.  And the cows of ugly appearance and lean of flesh devoured the seven cows that were of handsome appearance and healthy; then Pharaoh awoke."

The wise men of Egypt understood that fat and lean cows could mean years of abundance and of famine.  Fat cows are a result of a good harvest.  Lean cows are a result of a poor harvest. Obvious point.  They also understood that the fat cows being consumed by the lean cows meant the good years would come to an end.  Famine and hunger would consume abundance and prosperity. Again, obvious point.

One detail in the dream bothered them.  One detail in the dream changed their interpretation.  Pharaoh dreamt of the two sets of cows standing together. "The lean cows stood next to the fat cows".  If the cows were to represent the fiscal state of the country, how could times of prosperity coexist with times of scarcity? They reasoned that it would be impossible to have these two polar opposites occurring at the same time. 

They, therefore, interpreted the dream to mean that Pharaoh would birth seven daughters and bury seven daughters.  That is something which could happen at one time.  Whilst seven of his concubines would birth seven daughters, another seven of his daughters would die.  Thus, the joy of having seven girls would be consumed by a father having to bury his seven children.

Josephs genius was not in relating the cows to the fiscal state of Egypt, that was obvious. Josephs genius lay in explaining why the two cows stood together. How could years of abundance could coexist with years of scarcity.  

The answer: Whilst there are fat cows, think about lean cows.  This way when there are lean cows you still have fat cows.  Whilst there is abundance, think about scarcity.  This way when there is scarcity you still have abundance.  You have both sets of cows coexisting together.

Modern day answer: "Save for a rainy day!" 
During years of abundance...
don't ... go on shopping binges! 
don't ... overspend! 
don't ... over leverage!

You should save and store.  Take all of the grains and put them in storehouses.  If you want to have fat cows whilst you have lean cows than think ahead.  Know that there will be a rainy day.  Know that there will be difficult times and plan ahead for them.

Thanks for reading. 

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p.ArSK.a -- parsha queries.

When looking over the parsha it struck me how simple Yosefs dream interpretation was.  Fat and robust cows for fat and robust economic production, which results in fatter cows.  Lean cows for lean years.  Which leads me to wonder what was so brilliant about Yosefs interpretation?  Why weren't the wise men of Egypt not able to figure that out?  Why did Pharoah appoint him as second in command for something so simple? Any ideas?

Any other ideas for how to call these Parsha questions? I am calling them p.ArSK.a in the meantime, Parsha ASK, get it?
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What goes around comes around. All you need is a little bit of patience.


Whenever you are in the thick of things just remember "What goes around comes around, all you need is a little bit of patience to see it through."

10 things Joseph suffered through, 10 things Joseph was rewarded with:

(1) He was hated by his brothers.
(1) He was loved by Pharoah and all of Egypt.

(2) His brothers hated him because of his dreams.
(2) Pharoah and Egypt loved him because of his dream interpretations.

(3) Josephs brothers stripped him of his garment and multicolored coat.
(3) Pharoah adorned him with fine linen clothes and a golden necklace.

(4) Joseph was thrown into the pit naked.
(4) Pharoah ordered Joseph to be taken out of the pit (jail), clothed, and be made presentable.

(5) Joseph was sold to others.  His brothers wanted to profit off of him.
(5) Joseph sold to others.  They came clamoring to buy grain from him.

(6) Josephs brothers plotted against him as he approached them.
(6) Joseph plotted against his brothers as they approached him. (Obviously not in an evil way)

(7) His brothers separated themselves from Joseph.
(7) His brothers were now reunited with Joseph.

(8) Joseph went down to Egypt, in poverty and indignity.
(8) Now he was placed as the ruler over the entire country.

(9) The wife of Potiphar tried to sleep with Joseph.
(9) Joseph marries the daughter of Potiphar.

(10) At the end of last weeks Parsha, the butler forgot Joseph.
(10) At the beginning of this weeks Parsha, the butler remembers Joseph.

Trust in the one above. What comes around goes around, just a little patience, and a prayer on your lips.

Thanks for reading to the end.  Please feel free to comment.
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Question. Bakers Reaction?

As I was reading the Parsha on Shabbos I was wondering...What do you think the bakers reaction was when he was told that he would be hung in three days?

Any ideas?
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Slave or Master. You choose!

This post is in response to a question that one of my readers posed in reference to my twitter post and relating it to Moshiach times.
The reader asked, "What is with those Rabbis that ban the internet?"

Here is my response, garnered from this weeks Torah portion, of course. :-).

Are you a slave or are you a master? Do you exert control over your surroundings, possessions or do they exert their control over you?

Our daily tightrope.

    All worldly object are governed by two energies - positive and negative. Its negative energy allows it to be a catalyst for negativity.  Its positive energy allows it to be a catalyst for positivity.  The negative energy is tapped into when the user is a slave to the object.  The positive energy is tapped into the when the user is a master over the object.

    These dual energies create tension, a tension which demands us tightrope walking.  We must balance our distance with our involvement.  Our distance from the object is necessary in order not to be enslaved to the object thereby succumbing to its negative energy. However, our involvement is necessary in order to harness its positive energy, thereby making us the master over the object.

How do we do that?!

Yaakov gives Eisav a wordly lesson.

    Yaakov prepares to meet with his brother Eisav in this weeks Torah portion.  Prior to their meeting Yaakov sends a message to Eisav telling him, "עם לבן גרתי", that he has lived with Lavan.  Our sages learn that Yaakov was telling Eisav one of two things.

(1) גרתי coming from the root of גר, that although Yaakov spent 20 years in the house of Lavan he was still like a foreigner, an alien to the lifestyle of Lavan.

(2) גרתי, with the same letters as תרי"ג, representing the 613 מצוות which Yaakov fulfilled although he was in Lavans house.

    To positively affect Lavan demands being an alien in his world, being a גר. To positively affect physicality demands being an alien to it, to be unshackled.  Shackled to physicality disables you from positively affecting it.  Unshackled enables you.  When you are not a foreigner to physicality, but rather very much at home with it, you can not aspire to harness its potential positive energy.  If you are a slave you can't be a master.  First you must release the shackles which physicality has upon you and only than you can be its master.

Response to bloggers question.

There are Rabbis who are proponents of banning the internet.  They are afraid that people will be influenced by it negatively.  That shows a certain weakness.  It requires greater strength to be involved and yet be a master.

Be a master!

Good Shabbos,
Aron Grinshtein

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Kabbalah of Twitter -- First Iteration

   An axiom present in Kabbalistic thought is that every physical entity is a result of a spiritual entity.   I.E. A table is physical, you can touch it with your hands, see it with your eyes.  A tables function is to hold things which sit upon it.  That concept of being a receptacle for items to sit upon it is a spiritual concept.  It cant be touched, it isn't limited to a certain space or even a certain manifestation.  That concept expresses itself in a cup, your brain and so on and so forth.  This article is an attempt to explain the spiritual DNA of the birth of twitter. 

    Isolation breeds arrogance, connectedness breeds humility.  When we live in our own little bubble, oblivious to all that occurs around us, we develop a perception that all that occurs in our own little space is all that matters.  Conversely when we open ourselves up to the world, connecting with people around us, we develop a realization that we are merely but a piece of the larger puzzle.  In our own little bubble we view ourselves as the puzzle, we are it and there is nothing else.  Outside of our little bubble we realize we are merely a pixel of a much larger picture.

    A scientist in Zimbabwe is a well respected member in his community.  A productive individual, advancing academia in a country devoid of it.  Isolated from the scientific community at large will breed arrogance in this Zimbabwian scientist.  Were he to connect with contemporaries in other places in the world he would realize that he is only but a small piece, a tiny and perhaps insignificant piece in the world of science.  Were he to visit the hallowed halls of institutions such as MIT, Technion, etc... he would realize that he has a long way to go.  Isolated, his arrogance will grow. Connected, his humility.


    The world is, by its very nature and creation, isolated.  Geographical distances, languages, and cultural difference all act as barriers separating people from each other, events, and places.  These barriers are built into the very world which we live in.  The world appears to be a bunch of disparate pieces unconnected to each other.  There seems to be no way out -- or is there?  We seemed destined for this fragmented reality -- or not?

    Kabbalah explains that there are two ways of perceiving the world.  Our perspective and G-ds perspective.  We perceive the world as a true reality, whilst G-dliness is an abstract reality.  G-d perceives G-dliness as the true reality, whilst the world is an abstract reality. (This needs to be reworded) We perceive the world as it is severed from its source.  G-d perceives the world as it is merely an extension from its source.  Our perception of the world breeds fragmentation and isolation.  G-ds perspective of the world breeds harmony and unity.

    There are two ways of perceiving a janitors role in an international, billion dollar company.  The janitors perspective and the CEO's perspective.  The janitor perceives taking out the trash, washing the dishes, cleaning the toilets as the true reality, whilst the companies global vision and mission is an abstract reality.  The CEO perceives the companies' global vision as the true reality and the janitors job as a cog in the wheel of the companies' goals.  The janitor views his job as it is an isolated fragment of the company.  The CEO understands how important the janitors job is to the company.  The janitors perspective breeds fragmentation and isolation.  The CEO's perspective breeds harmony and unity.  The CEO sees and understand how each role in the company complements and fill an important role in accomplishing the goals of the company.

     The purpose of creation is to create harmony in the world. To create a world where each and every creation sings in tandem with the next. Where each creation realizes the purpose for which it was created and sees how the next creation adds that which it cant.  Where each instrument plays its own song whilst being respectful and cognizant of the instruments around it allowing them to play theirs.

    Harmony is able to occur when each person/thing is able to reach beyond themselves and peer into a larger vision, a global picture.  When we rise above the constraints of our own ego and tune into something greater than ourselves.  As long as we are engrossed in our own little world we are incapable of giving space for someone/thing else.  When we tap into G-ds vision than can we be at peace with ourselves and our surroundings.  When we tap into the CEO's vision we can understand our role and the roles of those arround us.

    Kabbalah explains that during the times of Moshiach we will all be in tune with our global mission. We wont see ourselves as isolated beings, but rather as one organism. All of creation working side by side, hand in hand, complementing each others vices and accentuating each others virtues.  It will be a time when each of us will be able to peer beyond our self absorbed egos.  We will be in sync, drumming to the same beat.

    Disclaimer: The following is my own opinion, feel free to disagree.

    I believe that as we are getting closer to the times of Moshiach, the technology developed is in sync with the very ideas which the era of Moshiach will usher in.  Technology enables us to bridge the barriers which naturally divide us.  Although technologies such as the radio, TV, airplanes shrunk the barriers which naturally divide us, they still were a buffer between what really occurs and those listening and watching events.  The people are still isolated from each other, in the dark as per what is really happening. (Thats why I get questions from people asking me how I could live in such a crime ridden place as South Africa.  They aren't really in sync with what is happening.  They only get the news broadcasts. The news broadcasts news that sells.)

    Twitter changes everything.  Twitter shatters all of the remaining barriers.  No longer is there a buffer, no longer is there a static signal which shades and 'pollutes' the news that gets transmitted.  Twitter brings people together, it unites people.  Whilst following the tragedy in Mumbai I wasnt in South Africa, I was in Mumbai.  I was connected to a place 4294 miles away from my own physical location.  I was connected, not isolated.  Twitter connects.  Twitter breaks down any possibility of isolation.  We are now connected.  Twitter is real time, real place, and real people.

    Twitter is here because Moshiach is near.

I thank you for reading this long piece.  I await and appreciate your thoughts and comments.  They mean a lot to me.

Yours truly,

R' Aron Grinshtein

 

 

 

 

 

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"From rags to riches", so...

I've shared a document with you called ""From rags to riches", so...":
http://docs.google.com/Doc?id=dggwm9cz_28hdm49whn&invite=g5mz9nt

It's not an attachment -- it's stored online at Google Docs. To open this document, just click the link above.
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  • Many people can relate to starting from nothing and amassing great fortunes.
  • America started off that way.
  • The question is what sort of attitude to you develop as a result.

    Many people came to America as impoverished immigrants only to work hard and amass great fortunes in the land of opportunity.  Many crossed over the Atlantic Ocean with only the clothes on their back.  The image of an immigrant walking across the border with a stick over his back carrying all of his belongings in a bag wouldn't be a stretch of the imagination -- they came with very little.  Through persistence and determination many of these immigrants did very well in this country.  They had to overcome cultural and language barriers to succeed, and succeed they did.  From rags to riches, that is the story of many an immigrant.

   With the great change in wealth there must have been a great change in attitude.  From humble and simple spirited to arrogance and self assuredness.


    Yaakov crossed over the Jordan River with nay a possession to his name save a walking stick.  Crossing over the Jordan - to Lavan - was an impoverished man. Yaakov worked for twenty years, amassed a great fortune and decided it was time to head back home.  This time crossing over the Jordan - away from Lavan - was a wealthy man, a man of means. 

    With the great change in wealth you would expect there to be a great change in attitude.  You would expect Yaakov to be sure in himself, to be self confident.  Yaakov however remained humble, unsure in himself.  With an attitude as if he was teetering on bankruptcy.  In the words of Yaakov, " I have become small from all the kindnesses and from all the truth that You have rendered Your servant, for with my staff I crossed this Jordan, and now I have become two camps."  Although, I have acquired great wealth, nevertheless it is not with my greatness, nor with my strength, I still remain small, and humble.  Therefore, I entreat for mercy on high to assist me in my next venture.

    Compare that with the attitude of a successful immigrant.  A little different, no?

I welcome all questions and comments, thanks for your time in reading my article, I appreciate your attention.

   

    

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Kabbalah of Twitter outline.

Kabbalah of Twitter outline:

  • Isolation leads to ego.
  • Connectedness leads to lack of ego.
  • World is naturally disconnected, places are naturally is isolation from each other.
  • This stems from the isolation between the physical and G-dly worlds.  We aren't cognizant of our G-dly source.   If we were we would not have our own ego.
  • Purpose of creation to bridge G-dly and physical worlds, to connect them, to take them out of their isolation.  As that happens by extension the world also becomes more interconnected.
  • Twitter brings the world together, real time, real place, real people.
Comments? Ideas? Questions?
A full write up is coming soon, stay tuned.
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