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Seedings. Feelings.

"Enjoy life"
"Live it to its fullest!"
"If you can't enjoy it than what is it worth?!"
"Live in the moment"
"If I can't go eat out at Pie Works, life is not worth living." (I hope nobody thinks that :-)  If you do, please call your local Rabbi, lol.)

Those are all quotes urging us on to take advantage of life and enjoy every moment.  Don't worry about the future, it's the present that counts.  Live it up, baby!

"Rapidly did grow the seedlings of the diligent to become cedars for the
beams of our house."  Many years before his children were in need of cedar wood ... Father Yaakov planted seeds which would provide for his offsprings' need. (Hey, that rhymes)  He planted seeds which grew into cedar trees with which his children built the Mishkan.

Diligent people think about the future of their children.  They don't live careless, happy go lucky lives without paying a pittance of thought about their childrens' future needs.  They don't indulge in their own vanities at the expense of their childrens' well being.  They do plant seeds which will mature into full grown trees to provide for their childrens' well being.

What are we planting for our offspring?

Are we throwing out the seeds? Or are we planting seeds which will bear fruit so support our offspring in our times of need? Are we the diligent grandparents of our offspring? Or are we the thoughtless antecedents to our future?

Do we shirk our responsibilities to our childrens' future? Or do we curb our carefree life and think about someone elses' future?

As I stand on the brink of becoming a parent, what seeds am I planting?

(BTW there is a difference between forethought about the future and worrying about the future. Have forethought. Dont worry)

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Sunglasses.

Recently I got a pair of sunglasses. 

I have never driven with sunglasses, I was missing out.  If you don't drive with sunglasses, you may be missing out.  

South Africa, thank G-d, has a powerful sun providing warmth and copious amounts of light.  Its lekker. (For my American companions, lekker = great)  When you are at the beach and just chilling its great.  When you sit all day in front of a computer screen and your body is crying out for Vitamin D, the sunlight is great.  When you are driving in an uninhabited place that doesn't have any lamp lights and it is 12:00 at night, you pine for the sunlight.  Sunlight is great.

I still love my sunglasses.  I love my sunglasses that filter the light.  They allow me to get just the amount of light my eyes can handle.  Too much light is no good, it needs to be filtered.

"...and the Curtain shall separate for you between the Holy and the Holy of Holies."
The purpose of the Curtain was for you.  If you didn't have the Curtain you would be missing out.

The Mishkan was the epicenter from which G-dliness would be exported to the rest of the world. G-dliness is great.  When you are spiritually bankrupt and your soul is crying out for some G-dliness, its fantastic.  When you are stuck in the rat race and need some inspiration to jump out of it, G-dliness is great.  Just give me my Vitamin G-dliness is your plea.

The Curtain put a curb on the amounts of G-dliness allowed to penetrate. The Curtain was the Tabernacles' sunglasses. 

I love the curtain.  It filters the amount of G-dliness.  It allows my soul to get just the amount I can handle.  I love my sunglasses.  They allow me to get just the right amount of sunlight.  Don't leave home without them.

Where in your life do you need a pair of sunglasses?

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Sitting on pins and needles.


Something is about to happen.  Something big.  You are anticipating it, you await it.  You are sitting on pins and needles.

Now, sitting on pins and needles is not a comfortable thing.  I prefer to sit on a chair with nice arm rests, good cushioning and great back support.  A chair that is conducive for relaxing and reading a good book.  In order for a chair to fulfill its function it needs to be transparent, it needs to make sure that it doesn't let me know that it is there.  A chair that has pins and needles as its cushioning just doesn't seem to fit the bill.  I wouldn't want to sit on a chair of pins and needles.

"Make for me a sanctuary and I will dwell within them." This is an invitation for the Jewish people to become contractors.  To make a place which G-d will be comfortable.  "Make me a chair and I will sit on it."  Don't make me a chair of pins and needles.  Make me a comfortable chair.  Make me a transparent chair, a chair that doesn't make me aware of it.  G-d invites his people to make him a place which will be transparent and thus be open to his presence.

Yeah, I am sitting on pins and needles.  I suspect that my wait will be over soon.  I suspect that we, the Jewish people, are nearly finished our contracting job.

(BTW my wife was due to give birth today.)

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"That's enough... thank you."

Frequently I analyze my work efficacy.  See where I am being productive and see where I am lacking.  To take a birds eye look at how I am doing in life.

I have found that there are numerous interests that one can have.  The internet has made it possible to delve into all of them and to find new ones.  There is virtually no limit to the extent of interesting things that one can find online.  This is to the extent that I find myself getting sucked into the quagmire of interests, with no end in sight.  So much information, so many engaging ideas.  The time has come to say, "That is enough...thank you."

In order to build the Sanctuary in the desert, G-d called upon the people to each lend a hand.  One was engendered to give that which they were able.  One gave gold, and another gave bronze.  One gave cedar wood, and another flax.  Each person contributing.  They contributed, and contributed, and contributed and cont....you get the point :-)  They brought so much that Moshe had to bridle the enthusiastic giving and contributions that the nation gave.  Moshe told the nation, "That is enough...thank you."  We need this amount and no more. 

We humans (at least I do) have a tendency to continously want more and more of a good thing.  Moshe teaches us that there comes a time that we must even tell interesting ideas, "That is enough ... thank you."  I appreciate your wit and humor.  I appreciate your content and inspiration.  However, I have reached my needs.  I need no more. 

What in our lives can we say, "That is enough...thank you."?  What extra stuff do you allow in your life that you can say, "I dont need you, go away."?

I think that is enough...thank you. (for taking the time to read this)

http://arongrinshtein.posterous.com/thats-enough-thank-you

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Can you come up with a title?!

Story #1: 

You are going out of town and you need someone to take care of your cow Betsy.  You give her over to the neighbor, John, and ask him to take good care of her.  You tell John the feeding times and to shower Betsy with lots of love.  You give John a 100$ for his services.

Two weeks later you come back home and John tells you, "I have got some sad news to share with you, Betsy was stolen."  Grieved at the turn of events and the loss of your cow, you tell John, "You were a paid guardian and you are liable for a stolen object, pay up!" John concedes and pays you the money. 

A week later the police find good old Betsy in the hands of Ivan the Thief.  Unfortunately Betsy is no longer alive, Ivan slaughtered Betsy :-(, boo hoo.  The courts obligate Ivan to pay four times Betsies' value (as the law mandates for a thief) to John, your neighbor. 

Johns' payment to you for Betsy, has given him the rights to any future income resulting from Betsy. In this case the income is rather high. Four times her value.  Ouch. Tough Nuggets! 

Story #2:

You are downsizing.  You are throwing stuff out that you dont need.  You have a bunch of pots and pans that you dont need but dont want to throw out.  You bring them over to the local "Store and Lock LTD".  The storage fee is 40$ a year, you pull out your wallet and pay two years in advance.  Great price.

Its time for the Bar Mitzvah of your eldest son. Mazel Tov! You decide you are going to self cater.  Nothing tastes as good as home made grub.  Now is when those pots and pans will come in handy.  You go over to the "Store and Lock LTD", and much to your chagrin they tell you there has recently been a robbery and amongst the stolen items are your pots and pans.  In an attempt to placate you they give you back the full value of a new set of pots and pans, you are elated. 

Two weeks later you see in the newspaper that the thief was found, taken to court and found guilty and penalized with paying "Store and Lock LTD" double the value of the pots and pans.  Aww shucks. 

Why to them? Same reason as above.  Store and Lock LTDs' payment to you for the pots and pans, has given them the rights to any future income resulting from the pots and pans. In this case the income was double their value. Not as bad as the cow, but that is a 100% return.

Laws learnt: A paid guard who pays for the stolen object assumes all future income from the stolen object.  The item effectively comes into the possession of the guardian.  In the event the thief is found, all proceeds go to the paid guard.  For anything that was stolen the guard gets double the value in return, with the exception of an ox or lamb when slaughtered he gets four or five times the value in return.  Those are the penalties placed on the thief.  A regular object = 2 * value. Slaughtered ox = 4 * value.

When two cases or stories are brought in a Mishna, the Gemoro frequently questions the necessity to bring both cases down. 

Here the Gemoro is teaching that when a paid guard pays for the item deposited into his watch he assumes ownership over the item and acquires all future 'income' that will come from that item.  This same idea is illustrated in both stories.  In the story of Betsy and in the story of the Pots and Pans.

So why does the Mishna tell us both stories? Is there anything we would not understand by telling us only one of the stories?

In order for the guard to assume 'ownership' over the item, it is necessary for the owner to relinquish his control over it.  To pass the 'torch' over to the possession of the guard.  The guard can not assume ownership unless the owner is ready to relinquish his ownership over the object.  Therefore we are in need  of both cases.  For had we only brought one of the cases we would have assumes that in the second case the owner would not be ready to relinquish his ownership over the item.

Stop! Think for a minute.  Which case would the owner be less agreeable to relinquish ownership? Which case would the owner be less ready to relinquish the possible future income?




Obviously, where the possible future income would be higher! Very good, I am sure you got it. (Anyone not smart enough to get that would have been too bored to get this far down the page, :-))

When the possible future income is low, the owner would rather be secure in his principal than take a gamble that maybe the thief will be found.  However when the future income is high, than we would have reason to believe that perhaps over there the owner will rather keep ownership over the item in the case the thief is caught and he will than incur profits of 400%. 

Had we only brought down the story of the pots and pans we would have thought, there the owner will gladly relinquish his ownership in exchange for the items value for he is only foregoing a possible doubling of his money -- if the thief is found.  So he says, better to be sure in my principal than hope that I will get double back.  However when the stakes are raised, with the ox, and it is possible that he may get 400% back, maybe than he wont forego and relinquish his ownership.  Therefore the Mishna has to bring down the case of the ox as well.  (I am not going to go into why we need the case of the pots and pans as it is irrelevent to my point).

Good old Betsy is worth more than a few pots and pans.  An ox probably costs somewhere close to a few thousand dollars (I am taking a shot in the dark I actually have no idea) and a plate wont get you anywhere near there.  So the gemoro could have just said that because oxen are worth a lot more so the owner wont want to forego the possible doubling of that significant amount in the case the robber is found out.  However the gemoro specifically said that a person might not want to forego the quadrupling or pentupling of the value of the product in the case the robber is caught.  The Gemoro focused on the percentage not the value.

What I learn from here is that it is important to deal with percentages, not with amounts.  When you are gaining or losing money dont focus on the amount, focus on the percentage.  When you are saving money or paying extra for something dont focus on the amount of money, focus on the percentage of money.

Two incidents to bring out the point. 
1) I was looking for a filing cabinet recently.  I found one on gumtree (Craigslist in SA version) and they were asking 400R, I asked them for 250R, they said yes right away, seeing that they were anxious to sell I said, "How about 150R?" So we settled for 200R.  I chopped off the price by 200R, not a large amount.  I chopped of the price by 50%, now that is huge!

2) I was making copies of a couple of keys.  The guy rings them up at the counter and says 30R.  I replied, "You dont happen to give discounts on key copies do you?" To which he replied, "I will give it to you for 27R." I saved 3R, thats nothing, 30 cents, or I saved 10% now that is huge.  If you could take all of your bills and slash them down by 10% you would be very happy. 

Focus on the percentages not the amounts.  The amounts will come later.

Thanks for reading until the end, I hope you enjoyed, and can you come up with a title for this article?

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Judge everyone favorably.

Our Sages command us to "Judge everyone favorably."

  This tenet is generally regarded as a moral obligation.  It is a principle that our sages laid down that we must abide to.  Looking past the surface and judging people favorably and with a positive eye is difficult.  When things appear to be one way - and we are always sure they are that way - to look past that is hard.  Nevertheless, our sages command us "Judge everyone favorably."  Difficult, but you must obey.  Demanding, but do as we say.  It is our moral obligation.

Perhaps another idea.

The way that we look at people effects the way that we act towards them. 

  Viewing people positively empowers you to be expressive towards them.  We are attracted to them.  The lines of communication are open.  Our positive view of them encourages connection and facilitates conversation. 

  However, when we view someone negatively we are no longer able to be expressive towards them.  We are repelled by them.  The lines of communication are closed.   Our negative view of them hinders and stifles connection.

  It is preferable to have open lines of communication.  When communication flows than even when something is amiss it is rectifiable.  When lines are closed than you never know what is happening behind the door.

   "Judge everyone favorably" is not merely a command but also a recommendation.  "Judge everyone favorably" is not only laying down a moral principle with which we are obliged to live by, but also giving guidance on how to live a happy life amongst the people around you.  If you want to be able to communicate easily with people around you than "Judge them favorably".

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Every man his hour.

Humans are interdependent beings.  We are dependent on each other for many things in life.  We depend on people adhering to traffic rules in order to get from one place to the next.  We depend on people to make sure there is food in the store.  We depend on people for so many things in life.  All you have to do is think through your day and you realize that you need people...hopefully people need you as well.

As we are interdependent, we must get along with people.  As the Mishna goes, "אין לך אדם שאין לו שעה".  There is no person in the world that doesnt have his hour.  Every person has his hour in which he can shine, in which he can give something to someone else.

People with wealth, physical or spiritual wealth, usually are on the giving end.  They tend to have connections, resources, and all sorts of other goodies.  However, there comes a time where they also fall short, for example when they are in a foreign place.  In a foreign city, they dont know anyone nor does anyone know them.  At that point maybe even the city pauper could help them out, even if it be for directions.  "There is no man that doesnt have his hour!" Remember that, and remember that well.

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Come up w/captions! awesome pics my wife took!

       
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JOKE: for Shel Israel.

A well dressed guy walked into a bank in New York and asked to speak to the loan manager.  The loan manager walks out and sees a well dressed man thinking he is in here for a big loan, probably some business venture of sorts. 

To his chagrin the guy asks him for a 500$ loan.  The bank manager looks into his account and his banking details (this was a long time ago, when dinosaurs roamed America, lol) and sees the man is loaded.  He is wondering to himself why the guy wants the loan but he refrains from nosing about.  (That sounds more like todays America.) The banker asks for a collateral.  The guy points his finger outside to a brand new Rolls Royce.  The banker says, "Well I guess that will do."  Now he is really wondering what this guy needs a measly 500$ loan for.

A few weeks later the guy walks back into the bank with a nice tan puts the 500$ on the counter and asks for his keys.  The manager unable to control his curiosity, asks him, "You are a wealthy man, why did you need a 500$ loan?!" To which he replied, "Where can you find parking in New York for a few weeks for 500$?

Got it?

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A little late but a GREAT Chanukah read.

This is an article written by Meir Kahane, although he is know for being a fanatic, I think this is a BRILLIANT article.

December 15, 1972 Rabbi Meir Kahane Writings (5732-33) (1971-73)

If I were a Reform rabbi; if I were a leader of the Establishment whose money and prestige have succeeded in capturing for him the leadership and voice of American Jewry; if I were one of the members of the Israeli Government's ruling group; if I were an enlightened sophisticated, modern Jewish intellectual, I would climb the barricades and join in battle against the most dangerous of all Jewish holidays – Chanukah.

It is a measure of the total ignorance of the world Jewish community that there is no holiday that is more universally celebrated than the "Feast of Lights", and it is an equal measure of the intellectual dishonesty and of Jewish leadership that it plays along with the lie. For if ever there was a holiday that stands for everything that the mass of world Jewry and their leadership has rejected – it is this one. If one would find an event that is truly rooted in everything that Jews of our times and their leaders have rejected and, indeed, attacked – it is this one. If there is any holiday that is more "unJewish" in the sense of our modern beliefs and practices – I do not know of it.

The Chanukah that has erupted unto the world Jewish scene in all its childishness, asininity, shallowness, ignorance and fraud – is not the Chanukah of reality. The Chanukah that came into vogue because of Jewish parents – in their vapidness – needed something to counteract Christmas; that exploded in a show of "we-can-have-lights-just-as-our-goyish-neighbors" and in an effort to reward our spoiled children with eight gifts instead of the poor Christian one; the Chanukah that the Temple, under its captive rabbi, turned into a school pageant so that the beaming parents might think that the Religious School is really successful instead of the tragic joke and waste that it really is; the Chanukah that speaks of Jewish Patrick Henrys giving-me-liberty-or death and the pictures of Maccabees as great liberal saviors who fought so that the kibbutzim might continue to be free to preach their Marx and eat their ham, that the split-level dwellers of suburbia might be allowed to violate their Sabbath in perfect freedom and the Reform and Conservative Temples continue the fight for civil rights for Blacks, Puerto Ricans and Jane Fonda, is not remotely connected with reality.

This is NOT the Chanukah of our ancestors, of the generations of Jews of Eastern Europe and Yemen and Morocco and the crusades and Spain and Babylon. It is surely not the Chanukah for which the Maccabees themselves died. Truly, could those whom we honor so munificently, return and see what Chanukah has become, they might very well begin a second Maccabean revolt. For the life that we Jews lead today was the very cause, the REAL reason for the revolt of the Jews "in those days in our times."

What happened in that era more than 2000 years ago? What led a handful of Jews to rise up in violence against the enemy? And precisely who WAS the enemy? What were they fighting FOR and who were they fighting AGAINST?

For years, the people of Judea had been the vassals of Greece. True independence as a state had been unknown for all those decades and, yet, the Jews did not rise up in revolt. It was only when the Greek policy shifted from mere political control to one that attempted to suppress the Jewish religion that the revolt erupted in all its bloodiness. It was not mere liberty that led to the Maccabean uprising that we so passionately applaud. What we are really cheering is a brave group of Jews who fought and plunged Judea into a bloodbath for the right to observe the Sabbath, to follow the laws of kashruth, to obey the laws of the Torah. IN A WORD EVERYTHING ABOUT CHANUKAH THAT WE COMMEMORATE AND TEACH OUR CHILDREN TO COMMEMORATE ARE THINGS WE CONSIDER TO BE OUTMODED, MEDIEVAL AND CHILDISH!

At best, then, those who fought and died for Chanukah were naïve and obscurantist. Had we lived in those days we would certainly not have done what they did for everyone knows that the laws of the Torah are not really Divine but only the products of evolution and men (do not the Reform, Reconstructionist and large parts of the Conservative movements write this daily?) Surely we would not have fought for that which we violate every day of our lives! No, at best Chanukah emerges as a needless holiday if not a foolish one. Poor Hannah and her seven children; poor Mattathias and Judah; poor well meaning chaps all but hopelessly backward and utterly unnecessary sacrifices.

But there is more. Not only is Chanukah really a foolish and unnecessary holiday, it is also one that is dangerously fanatical and illiberal. The first act of rebellion, the first enemy who fell at the hands of the brave Jewish heroes whom our delightful children portray so cleverly in their Sunday and religious school pageants, was NOT a Greek. He was a Jew.

When the enemy sent its troops into the town of Modin to set up an idol and demand its worship, it was a Jew who decided to exercise his freedom of pagan worship and who approached the altar to worship Zeus (after all, what business was it of anyone what this fellow worshipped?) And it was this Jew, this apostate, this religious traitor who was struck down by the brave, glorious, courageous (are these not the words all our Sunday schools use to describe him?) Mattathias, as he shouted: "Whoever is for G-d, follow me!"

What have we here? What kind of religious intolerance and bigotry? What kind of a man is this for the anti-religious of Hashomer Hatzair, the graceful temples of suburbia, the sophisticated intellectuals, the liberal open-minded Jews and all the drones who have wearied us unto death with the concept of Judaism as a humanistic, open-minded, undogmatic, liberal, universalistic (if not Marxist) religion, to honor? What kind of nationalism is this for David-Ben-Gurion (he who rejects the Galut and speaks of the proud, free Jew of ancient Judea and Israel)?

And to crush us even more (we who know that Judaism is a faith of peace which deplores violence), what kind of Jews were these who reacted to oppression with FORCE? Surely we who so properly have deplored Jewish violence as fascistic, immoral and (above all!) UN-JEWISH, stand in horror as we contemplate Jews who declined to picket the Syrian Greeks to death and who rejected quiet diplomacy for the sword, spear and arrow (had there been bombs in those days, who can tell what they might have done?) and "descended to the level of evil," thus rejecting the ethical and moral concepts of Judaism.

Is this the kind of a holiday we wish to propagate? Are these the kinds of men we want our moral and humanistic children to honor? Is this the kind of Judaism that we wish to observe and pass on to our children?

Where shall we find the man of courage the one voice, in the wilderness to cry out against Chanukah and the Judaism that it represents-the Judaism of our grandparents and ancestors? Where shall we find the man of honesty and integrity to attack the Judaism of Medievalism and outdated foolishness; the Judaism of bigotry that strikes down Jews who refuse to observe the law; the Judaism of violence that calls for Jewish force and might against the enemy? When shall we find the courage to proudly eat our Chinese food and violate our Sabbaths and reject all the separateness, nationalism and religious maximalism that Chanukah so ignobly represents? …Down with Chanukah! It is a regressive holiday that merely symbolizes the Judaism that always was; the Judaism that was handed down to us from Sinai; the Judaism that made our ancestors ready to give their lives for the L-rd; the Judaism that young people instinctively know is true and great and real. Such Judaism is dangerous for us and our leaders. We must do all in our power to bury it.

What are your thoughts?

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